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Count Dooku
06-29-2002, 11:39 PM
I made this for the people who would like to talk about there personal problems, or stress. You can share anything, I want people to respect each other thats the only rule.
Edited.
Android
06-29-2002, 11:59 PM
Yeah, I'm pissed, my host decided to stop supporting Volano chat! Now I have to get another chat solution.
Count Dooku
06-30-2002, 12:14 AM
What does that have to do with personal stress? Dude I am so angry I am chugging down some beers.
Android
06-30-2002, 12:16 AM
Sorry dude, not the same kinda streess, but stress nonetheless. Now I have to find another server for it, and that's bucks I don't have!
Count Dooku
06-30-2002, 12:23 AM
It's cool dude dont worry about it, there's alot of stuff going on in my life it's screwed up. My friend is having chest problems he's the same age[18] as me, and he's supposed to die in 3 months. I've known Matt ever since I was 7 so it's pretty hard.
Android
06-30-2002, 12:25 AM
Dude, you have my sympathies! I lost a child last year and THAT was a LOT of stress. If you wanna talk, email me.
administrator@skeletalmage.com
Vyndim
06-30-2002, 12:26 AM
Well my personal stress is the lack of communication I can have with my family; especially lately. Occasionally certain topics are brought while talking and I'm always forced to keep my mouth shut and be evasive in our conversations. An example is my choice to not believe in God; My parents would most likely throw me out of the house if they found that out. :( While they arn't religious, they still find ideas like that unappealing. I suppose this problem wouldn't be so bad if I had someone else to talk to, but as it stands my social life is next to nothing. I have two friends I've kept since I graduated, I severed all ties with everyone else and the two friends I do have arn't exactly the people you have deep conversations with or express your feelings to. The religious thing was just an example, there are pleanty of other things I don't tell my family. *sigh* Is it like this for all teens? I know I only have to put up with them for the two years of community college, then I'm gone, but I was hoping I wouldn't have to put a facade on for my own family. ???
Count Dooku
06-30-2002, 12:37 AM
I know how you feel, I really never have anyone to talk to people about my problems, I think that's why I am so stressed. No one is ever there for me, I try my best and the recent actions going on I really dont care for life. My friend Matt is someone who I can talk to but I feel sorry for him, and being interested in girls it's kinda hard for me I am always shy but I have had good relationships.
Darth Vicious
06-30-2002, 03:11 AM
Family = Ultimate Stress Giver.
You know how your parents tell you all that bullcrap about "You can tell me anything" and all. That is a big lie. My mom would have a heartattack if she heard half the crap I did, and then I'd be kicked out of the house and all. My mom was sheltered as a kid so she thinks she has the right to do it to me, but luckily my dad is very lenient to limits, so it evens out to around 2 - 3 AM curfew at age 17. I only have to put up with 6 more months of living here and then I'm out. I'm tired of being under my family's wings, I need to get out on my own. I feel if I do, I'll get a better taste of life. I'm close to NO ONE in my family, as I have no one to talk to. I'm building something up with my 20 year old brother, mostly due to maturity, but still has borders, if you know what I mean. I'm privledged to have good friends, I feel I get more love from them than my family. There is one person I can talk to, and she is my BEST friend if the whole world, and the problem is is that I think I'm in love with her but I don't want to act on it as I'm afraid if I do, I #### up out relationship. Life is a tricky *******...
EDIT - Can't forget about a chick I got preg and she is 4 months thru it. I haven't told my parents and don't plan on it. I should be out of my house close when the baby is born, and if the girl lets me take care of it, I will, but odds are against me. I feel bad about getting her preg, it was a Hit N' Run relationship type thing, but I guess I blew it. The normal black sheep of the family I suppose.
JediBendu
06-30-2002, 06:11 AM
While your parents may seem like dicks now, as you get older you'll realise their value. *I left home pretty early so I didn't get to know my parents that much, not that I wanted to. *Unfortunately my old man died before I even had a chance to get to know him as a human being, let alone as my father. *There are [gut wrenching] times when I would do anything just to have the opportunity to sit down and have a beer with him. They're your parents, no one elses, and it's perfectly ok to say to them 'How does get f*cked sound?'
nerfer
06-30-2002, 08:09 AM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>On the view of not telling people things. I did that for many years. I carried around so much anger, it made me ill. Everyone thought I was a happy go lucky kid, no-one knew what my home life was like.
It only came out one basketball practice, my mum and been yelling and threatening to hit me for two days straight. I pulled myself together and went to practice. When my coach put his hand on my shoulder I ran out crying and collapsed in a heap.
He left someone else in charge and took time to listen to me. Everything came pouring out and it felt so good! He told me that just from knowing me a year, he knew I wasn't the person my mum said I was and that I was much loved and that I shouldn't listen to what she said and I should start to love myself abit.
I got more confident at basketball, and more confident in life. I started to tell my friends what I had gone thru and they have been great. Talking about how you feel is a very healthy thing and good thing to do. So if you do have someone to talk to do it. If you don't, then talk to us here. ((((HUGS)))))) style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif</span></span>
nerfer
06-30-2002, 08:09 AM
((((((HUGS)))))) Y'all!!!
I know about parents peeps. My mum is one pretty screwed up individual. Very controlling, very angry, very scary. Until I was 18 I'd get beat for not eating meat off a plate, or little petty things like that. One of my worst memories, is when my mum came home from parents evening. She yelled and screamed at me telling me I was everything from dumb to fat. When she finally got the result she wanted and I was bawling my eyes out to the point I was gonna be sick (I was about 7) She calmly told me the teachers had given me a great report and walked out of the room. Life was pretty much like that till I was 18 and I finally hit back. I had to spend a week at my Uncle and Aunts house. My mum ended up goin for a knife. My dad had taken a beating meant for me on his arm, she'd been using a bicycle pump and my dads arm was black!!!
My husband tells me I'm like a kicked dog, I go back for more. In a way I guess I'm right. While mum doesn't hit, she's still great on mental torture. At the moment we hope we're nearly at the end of my visa stuff, and I'll be able to move to the States soon. (My husband is from Michigan) Now I got married in the States and as the law stands I could have stayed in the country and just got my status adjusted. Now why didn't I? Because when I talked to my mum on my wedding day she was talking about killing herself. So I came back to offer her support. Although she says it had nothing to do with her, and I'm selfish and I didn't come back for her!
My dad left her a year ago, for someone around my age, they had a baby in March. My mum is showing no signs of moving on.
She doesn't even blame my dad, she blames my nan and my uncle for breaking up her marriage. She says its up to me if I still want to talk to my dads family or my dad. But when I have spoke to them in the past, she's told me to go to America and talk to them and to forget about her, because by talking to them I've betrayed her and I'm dead to her and any kids I have won't be her grandkids cause I'm dead to her.
I'm mad at my dad and my nan too, because they have lied to me. But I would I think, like to see my nan and grandad before I go. I didn't know my grandparents on my mums side too well, as they were from Mauritius and I rarely saw them.
Both my dads parents are poorly and I'd like to be on good terms with them. I told them to go to hell. Which made my mum happy (Although I still get accused of talking to them and my dad) I get interrogated tons of times a day! I feel like I'm in a prison camp. But while I was over in America, my nan and grandad, sent me a birthday card. My mum sent it back and then told me what she'd done!!!!
ARGHHHHHHHHHH It makes you want to tear your hair out. I can't wait to be out of this country and away from my family!!!!
Of course it helps that my hubby and his family are fantastic!!!!
Android
06-30-2002, 12:05 PM
Thanks Darth Lara and all who gave HUGS! As a parent I have read all of the above and will keep it in mind, and as always, I try to raise my other kids the best way I know how. Being somewhat of a kid myself (who am I kidding, I am a HUGE kid) I think my relationships with them will hopefully transcend the usual parent/child crap.
Rebel Astromech Droid
06-30-2002, 02:08 PM
Originally posted by Darth Vicious@June 30 2002 - 02:11
Family = Ultimate Stress Giver.
I know where you're comming from. I can't take it anymore my parents think that I'm depressed cause I don't get enough sleep cause they drag out of bed every damn morning cause they make me go to swim team at 6:15.
And now my best friend is going to a different school next year and she's one of the reasons that I'm still sane living in the household that I do.
nerfer
06-30-2002, 02:12 PM
Hi Lara (((HUGS)))
Yea believe me Meche I can't wait to get away from the stress. Mum still has quite the hold. SHe reiterated earlier on, that if I want to speak to my Nan then fine, but then my mum doesnt want anything to do with my if I do.
God its disgusting she can still put a hold on me!
(((HUGS))))) Android, losing a kid has got to be really tough.
(((HUGS)))) Jedi Bendu, I'm sorry you never got resolution with your father.
((HUGS))) Darth Vicious, I hope things get a bit easier and clearer for you soon.
((HUGS)))) Count Dooku, well you have peeps here you can talk to!!!
((((HUGS)))) Vyndim, I think we all have to put on facades in regards to parents, unfortunatley.
(((((((HUGS)))))) to any missed.
Darth Vicious
06-30-2002, 03:03 PM
It's kinda strange to say it but it is true. You seem to connect to the ones your don't know a whole lot about. The best love you can get is new love from someone you just met. Thanks all, the message boards are my way out of the real world of hate and into the new of love.
Count Dooku
06-30-2002, 03:09 PM
I am glad people posted here, it helps alot. I live with my father, but my Mom never see's me she lives 10 miles from me and never see's me, and sometimes I get into a fight with her. My Dad sometimes pisses me off, I know how everyone feels and it hurts. I feel the same I dont have a close family member, not even my parents. I just leave it inside me, and suffer. Now I totally missed that girl she left today, life sucks. Sometimes Life means nothing to me.
Count Dooku
06-30-2002, 03:16 PM
Sorry to hear that JediBendu. Even though I live with my father and we get into argument and all that stuff, I should be proud to have a father. I just hate it he is overprotected, I wanna do things I wanna do, he get's pissed when I smoke, drink, have sex I am 18 and I think I will do what I feel like, I know I have to drop some habbits especially smoking but I want to do things I want to do I am 18 years old.
Count Dooku
07-02-2002, 01:33 AM
Thanks Android, and I am sorry for your lost as well.
Blizzard
07-02-2002, 05:57 AM
I am closing this thread because I see my friends being decieved into getting personal. I will possibly open it again soon.
Blizzard
07-02-2002, 08:28 PM
Boys and girls and aliens... Here is your lesson for the week.
Don't always believe what you read online.
Though we do have many friends here, I personally know most of the people from all three forums that merged here. But... there is always one who thinks the internet is his/her personal playland and decides it would be cool to play some mind games to entertain themselves.
I first noticed it in this thread, then quickly realized he'd been doing it for a month. Count Dooku, Tyranus, Lord Sidious, and Darth Maul, along with 7+ other usernames are all the same person.
On one hand, I hate to see him go, he started many great threads and kept conversations going. On the other hand, he's gone... bye-bye... happy trails... he directly deceived the people in this thread, and mind games will not be allowed in this forum. Anyone else posting with more than one username will be banned.
The stress thread is now open for business. Why? Because sometimes real life needs to be discussed, too.
Speaking of stress... :hmmm:
Obi-Wan
07-02-2002, 10:12 PM
How do you know when someone uses more than one account?
Smeghead
07-02-2002, 10:16 PM
Magic. Or "Magick" for the Wiccan crowd. :o)
Blizzard
07-02-2002, 10:53 PM
Ancient Chinese secret.
Mara1Jade
07-02-2002, 11:09 PM
Ancient chinese secret call IP addy. Hehehe.
NelsonCoressel
07-02-2002, 11:48 PM
My husband, some hotshot. Here's his Ancient Chinese secret... Calgon!
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Tovor
07-03-2002, 12:39 AM
I first noticed it in this thread, then quickly realized he'd been doing it for a month. Count Dooku, Tyranus, Lord Sidious, and Darth Maul, along with 7+ other usernames are all the same person.
Holy hot hoola hoops Batgal, seven other usernames? *And now all banned? *Isn't that like, half our forum roster? *Who else was he posing as, as in who won't be responding to messages I posted to this or that person?
Darth Bun
07-03-2002, 01:18 PM
Well, thankfully she didn't do an "All Darth" wipe. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif
But, I do agree with Tov, we should get a list of all his identities...
nerfer
07-03-2002, 02:30 PM
Some people really suck! Its nasty that they would decieve peeps like that. YUCK!
JediBendu
07-04-2002, 12:49 AM
I was fired because they said I had a weird personality....
That's ok, I've got 4 more
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Tovor
07-04-2002, 12:24 PM
DarthLara, this is the STRESS thread so you have every right to express your stress, but what you wrote is not entirely accurate:
My stress: my boyfriend of three years dumped me like a hot potato!!!!! I'm going to another state to do my masters degree and I told him this because I wanted him to follow me, but instead of fighting for our relationship he sent me a really nasty email telling me that our relationship was over. This was not a casual relationship - we were engaged, I'm 30 he's 35 - Instead of fighting for us he decided to remain at home feeling miserable and lost in his own little world.
A hot potato is something you throw away quickly. *I waited for you for a very long time and this potato, myself, grew cold waiting in vain. *You made it sound like you were with me, as in the same city or home, and I left you because you wanted to leave here to go somewhere else. *But you didn't include that I haven't seen you in over a year, nearly a year and a half, and that for the last 3 years you had been stating that you were planning to move to Florida, only for those plans to change. *You didn't include that even before I gave you a ring our plan was for you to move here last summer and live with me, but that after I asked you to marry me that was postponed until last January. *Then in December I learned that January was not going to happen, and you promised me you would live here this summer for sure. *Then in May it became "I'm going to NY instead and I want you to disregard my promises to move to Florida, drop everything, and with money you don't have just move to NY." *You never came here like you said many times, and then I found that you never planned to from the beginning, and I grew tired of waiting in vain for something never meant to happen.
Quite the opposite with Tovor and me, when something he couldn't handle came up he skeddadled!
I couldn't handle not seeing you for a year and a half. *I got fed up with waiting for something you admitted was never going to happen. *It appears to me that it was you who "skeddadled" by heeding your parents and not returning to me. *Like you wrote, "our beautiful relationship ended the day my parents met you"; although it took you over a year to reveal that to me. *So that was my stress, not being good enough for your parents or for you. *We were Jack and Rose, and our relationship sunk like the Titanic.
Rebel Astromech Droid
07-05-2002, 01:54 PM
I am really pissed cause I #@$% can't #^&* go to the &*(%$# CREED concert on Aug. 10th cause we're leaving for Hawaii on the 9th sorry if I sound ungrateful but I have allready been to Hawaii and I really really really really really reeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllllllllllllllllll llllyyyyy whant to see CREED in concert with my friends. *I even offered to stay home and pay for the tickets my self. *AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! * NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 :mad: style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/unhappy.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wacko.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sneaky2.gif
Polunis
07-05-2002, 10:52 PM
I am really pissed cause I #@$% can't #^&* go to the &*(%$# CREED concert on Aug. 10th cause we're leaving for Hawaii on the 9th sorry if I sound ungrateful but I have allready been to Hawaii and I really really really really really reeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllllllllllllllllll llllyyyyy whant to see CREED in concert with my friends. I even offered to stay home and pay for the tickets my self. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 :mad: style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/unhappy.gif :crazy: :sneaky:
Yes, you seem to be quite upset. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif
Rebel Astromech Droid
07-06-2002, 01:04 PM
You can't even imagine.
Jedi_Zachaa
07-06-2002, 02:31 PM
Rebel Astromech Droid, I KNOW what you mean. * A couple months ago I almost didn't get to go to the concert I had been waiting for for many many years. *My favorite band doesn't exist anymore, plus half their members have passed on. *They're old men and so it's not like they do continuous touring. *So when I heard Paul McCartney was going to be in concert I immediately got off my duff and figured out how to get tickets off ticketmaster and was totally ready. *I got tickets, only to be betrayed by Ticketmaster. *I spent hours waiting on the help line trying to clear things up and when they finally said there was absolutely nothing they could do, I was in complete despair. *Words cannot describe the emotions I was going through. *I mean, who knows if Paul is ever going to tour again? *If he gets the luck of John and George, he might die before he gets the chance.
I was about to have a heart attack when my mind cleared and I looked online for other tickets. *They were twice as expensive, but in a slightly better spot, and I was willing to pay double price.
((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) *The only consolation I can give is at least you'll be somewhere fun to distract you. *If I had missed the concert, it would have just been a regular school day, and I would have cried my eyes out the whole time. *A trip to Hawaii isn't a terrible alternative to a concert.
Jedi_Zachaa
07-06-2002, 02:50 PM
Originally posted by Jedi_Zachaa@July 06 2002 - 13:31
I just read what Blizzard said in the other Meditation room, and I'm going to re-post my original problem here.
I really need to meditate and get a hold of myself. I run away with my imagination (in a bad way) and it's going to drive me all the way downhill and out of where I want to be.
Let me explain: Exactly a year ago, I was involved in my first relationship ever. I was kinda late, as I didn't get a boyfriend until my Senior year in high school. But oh well. So yeah this was last year, and it being my first relationship, I was extremely..um.. clingy. I thought of my boyfriend every waking minute, and cried myself to sleep every night he didn't call me when I asked him to. I was absolutely terrible. He went away to Japan for a month, I had no contact (he could have sent me an e-mail but he didn't) and I spent that month in agony, just waiting for the day when he would return. He came back and wanted basically nothing to do with me. I spent another couple weeks crying myself to sleep before I told myself I had to stop. So I broke up with him (well, really i just stopped contating him all together and he certainly didn't contact me). I healed and considered myself a better person for it.
The trouble now is: I hope i'm not going overboard AGAIN. While I think the major blame for last time was the guy treating me badly, and that just made it worse, but a lot of it was me just going nuts and expecting too much and imagining things that weren't there. There's even LESS reason for me to be imagining things, my guy is wonderful, but I'm slipping again and I almost cried today because he forgot to call me. What a dork I am!!!!!!
Any ideas for letting go of my anxiety and not letting little things get to me?
In regards to that post, I think I'm being silly. My new boyfriend is in no way like my previous one. He really did call, but my dad was on the phone and ignored the call waiting beep, and we just spent two days with each other and had a great time.
The STUPID thing is that despite this, I will probably eventually get all emotional AGAIN for some stupid reason and think he doesn't love me anymore or he's forgotten me or something equally as silly. HELP!!! Make it stop!!!
Rebel Astromech Droid
07-06-2002, 02:58 PM
Still unless I can get together 300$ and the airport blows up I won't get to go. Did I mention I'm completely broke?
Javen
07-06-2002, 09:08 PM
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! !!!
The ATM Macine messed up right when I was about to get money it gave my Card back no reciept and to top it all off
I went to the other ATM machine at the Bank and it actually
counted my money gone as if it gave the money to me now I'm a 100$ short and its not in my Wallet.
@^&#^$#&*$*&(%*(%*%*(%(%*%*#$!@!!
I'm depressed...I wish I could disappear...no one would miss me...
Jedi_Zachaa
07-15-2002, 05:13 PM
<span style='color:cc00ff'>((((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS LARA)))))))))))))))))) * Hang in there, all things must pass. *I'm sure a lot of people would miss you, including me. *Things will get better soon. *They always do. *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif
And now, my lunch break is over. *So I have to go back to that DANGED wire bonding machine and beat it into submission!!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif NOT looking forward to it. *It's giving me soooooooooo much trouble!!! BLAH!!!!!!!!!!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!</span> style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/mad.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/mad.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/mad.gif
Ok now i feel better.
Pepper
07-15-2002, 11:01 PM
Well, before I say anything I'd like to say that it's raining outside, the weather's beautiful, I live in a wonderful place, have good health, a good job, many good friends, and a wonderful family. *In short, God is good to me, as always. *Thank you God!
Now here's my very very minor little dealy. *I just asked out a very beautiful and special girl...only to find out that she has a boyfriend, who works in the place where I met her. *That's a bummer. *Now I'm 0-3 in my clumsy attempts in the last two years. *I hope that doesn't mean "three strikes and I'm out"...
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SonGokou
07-15-2002, 11:13 PM
Erg. I still can't get any Gold Medals in Rogue Leader. Nnnggh. Arrgg. *Pops blood vessel in brain and head slumps on keyboarddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd*
Thanks Zach, I just wish it didn't hurt so much, ya know. :(
Mara1Jade
07-16-2002, 01:59 AM
Awww Lara, I would miss ya!
I'd catch you on ICQ sometime if my computer didn't crash every time I installed it. I tried finding you on my trillian program but I can't seem to recieve or send requests to be added to lists.
Blizzard
07-16-2002, 03:12 AM
Don't worry, Jimmyboy, love isn't baseball. If it were we'd all be scoring home runs every now and then.
I am trying to get rid of my guy. He's mean and owes me tons of money and is now running for state senate and wants me to work for him. I don't think so! I am cutting my losses, if you will. I am going on a man-free diet. Well, at least until another one comes along.
In August I am spending two weeks camping and seeing the sites in Canada with one of my online friends. I am hoping it's one helluva stress buster.
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 03:31 AM
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I'm actually on a chic-free diet because the same thing happened to me. *Difference is she fleeced me hardcore so there's no way for me to even contemplate getting the cash back. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/devil.gif
live and learn *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif
Polunis
07-16-2002, 03:34 AM
Originally posted by JediBendu@July 16 2002 - 02:31
HA!
I'm actually on a chic-free diet because the same thing happened to me. Difference is she fleeced me hardcore so there's no way for me to even contemplate getting the cash back.style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/devil.gif
live and learn
A typical woman she is. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif
Polunis
07-16-2002, 03:41 AM
I am on a "chic-free" diet myself. I don't see relationships of that nature as all they are cracked up to be. Besides, I couldn't afford one. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif
I almost get ticked off by some of the bone-headed decisions I see women making every day. I don't know what they see in some men they take a fancy to; I only foresee future misery for them once those jocks turn into jerks. I would think they would have better taste, but I suppose I am expecting too much. :sigh:
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 03:41 AM
A typical woman she is.
ya
unfortunately I had to go through it to find out there really are predators out there.
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Polunis
07-16-2002, 03:53 AM
I am not saying they all are, but too many of them seem to be. *Carried along by their emotions, they forget to think before they act. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif * I suppose a grunting savage is preferable in their estimation to an ivory tower sage. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif
Mod Note: very sad. ANYONE, men and women, can be like this.
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 04:15 AM
sounds as though your describing the typical male
all humans are f*cked in my opinion
What bone-headed decisions are you seeing women make everyday? Is it your work?
Polunis
07-16-2002, 04:41 AM
They swoon over the typical jock all the time. They could actually hang out with guys who have charm and a razor-sharp wit, but superficiality always seems to win out in the end. I actually think the divorce rates would take a drastic drop if people would try to find a partner they enjoy being around as well as one commited to making the relationship work.
I apologize for the rant, but it boggles my mind how people can make the same mistakes over and over and over and over again. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wacko.gif
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 04:44 AM
Nietche's (sp?) eternal return.
We're all doomed to repeat a lesson until we learn it.
I'd actually like to see some correlation statistics between divorce rates and those couples who had met in a bar.
Polunis
07-16-2002, 04:52 AM
I'd actually like to see some correlation statistics between divorce rates and those couples who had met in a bar.
style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif Only the classiest of people meet in bars. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif That is simply not the place to go looking for commitment; they are more commited to the bottle than to anything else.
Nietche's (sp?) eternal return.
We're all doomed to repeat a lesson until we learn it.
It seems to take some people a lifetime; if it were possible, it would take some even longer. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 05:01 AM
people take multiple lifetimes.
I've crossed two trains of thought, but Nietche had the only solution being to realisation of the loop you were in. Only then can you break it.
Karma's got you coming back in your next life to make up for your mistakes in the first.
The lesson's keep coming until you die. Whether we learn from them or not is up to us but the same lesson will keep smacking you over the head until you finally get it.
Anyway - I'm not allowing myself to stress over anything. Life's way too short.
shame about the cash though...
Polunis
07-16-2002, 05:05 AM
I understand the feeling about cash; it is a nice tool to have around. I wish your situation was better, but it doesn't seem to be any fault of your own. This woman must be unprincipled.
I try not to worry about matters, but it is still a difficult struggle. Intellectually, I am fully aware that worrying is a fruitless, destructive behavior, but the emotional part of me seems to be preoccupied with what is wrong rather than what is right. Sometimes we have to unlearn what we have learned; that sounds vaguely familiar. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif
JediBendu
07-16-2002, 05:08 AM
your focus determines your reality
the force can have a strong influence on the weak minded
your eyes can deceive you, don't trust them
control, control, you must learn control
calm, peace, passive mmmm
there's a bucket load to choose from *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif
Polunis
07-16-2002, 05:10 AM
I see you catched my meaning. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif
nerfer
07-16-2002, 04:34 PM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>(((((((((HUGS)))))) Lara, you know you'd be missed sweetie.
Zachaa, do some YAY therapy and destress style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif
Hey not all us women are bad style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/devil.gif :D Although if my hubby plays ice hockey for fun, does that make him a jock?</span></span>
Jedi_Zachaa
07-16-2002, 06:23 PM
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!
Ok there!! hehe
Yeah we women are not all that bad. I think it's probably pretty even with both sexes. All of us have to wade through all the idiots before finding someone compatible. It also helps you grow, teaches you how to cope. The goal of any relationship should be to help yourself and your partner become a better person. Learn from your mistakes!!
Hopefully I won't make any mistakes this time around, I really like my current boyfriend, he's the best one yet. However I hope I don't get too attached because I don't know if he's had any other girlfriends and eventually he might want to try someone new. I'm trying not to get too attached but it's hard when we have so much fun together!!!
As one who has experience of divorce (my parents getting divorced, not me, i'm only 19) i'd like to say one thing. I don't find it a coincidence that the rise in divorce rates has coincided with the rise in household pets.
I'm being mad by the way.
Rebel Astromech Droid
07-16-2002, 07:35 PM
I have my own special opinion on that topic but I'm not going to voice it cause the mods might get mad.
Mara and Nerf, thanks girls! you gals can email me whenever you want :)
Bendu, the question is finding out what is that mistake, some ppl are just too blind to notice their own mistakes so they feel sorry for themselves. They are in Plato's cave.
I lost the love of my life...he just left. I'm so angry that I keep taking cheap shots at him although that hurts me too. He said no woman would ever replace me in his heart...yeah, that's the kind of sweet person he is. I adore him and something inside me wants to fight for him even though he doesn't want to fight for me.
Not all girls are the same. I had to return an engagement ring.
Polunis and Bendu, what's up with that "member II" thingy?
Meche
07-16-2002, 08:42 PM
Lara: Polunis and JediBendu have made it to 500 posts and advanced to Member II, so now they can create polls. Says here: http://www.galacticsenate.com/ikonboa....2;t=592 (http://www.galacticsenate.com/ikonboard.cgi?act=ST;f=2;t=592)
Oh, I see. This is what happens when I'm away for too long :p
Polunis
07-16-2002, 11:20 PM
Do allow me to clarify. I am by no means suggesting that women are worse than men; quite frankly, I think some men have a real problem with relating to others. I just think some women could choose a spouse that they could actually live with. The men I see some of them choosing are just not going to be satisfactory husbands.
Polunis, good point. People rush into marriage, they don't really get to know the other person really well.
Polunis
07-16-2002, 11:32 PM
Polunis, good point. People rush into marriage, they don't really get to know the other person really well.
Why, thank you. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif A bit of patience can go a long way sometimes...at least as far as relationships are concerned. I am just going to be patient for the time being; I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend, but I wouldn't know how to find one. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif
JediBendu
07-17-2002, 12:39 AM
The male/female divide will never be crossed while gender stereotypes are being re-enforced throughout society. Billboards, tv, bus stops all contribute but it's your parents (who've been taught the same way by theirs) which are primarily responsible.
People rush in and get married at a young age because that's what they've been told to do, it's what is expected of them, and they're made to feel slightly ostracised if they don't. How many tv shows are there which promote particular societal norms or an ideal family structure?
People don't take the time to get to know each other - for sure. But they spend even less time getting to know themselves, let alone someone else. Serial monogomy! :crazy:
hey Meche - congrats on the elevation to Mod! Orange looks good on you :p
Polunis
07-17-2002, 12:44 AM
I don't know if it has to do with gender stereotypes, but that could be a factor; I think people are just ignorant of others, and even more ignorant of themselves, as you observed. I think people need to take issues such as marriage seriously or else they are doomed to fail.
JediBendu
07-17-2002, 12:55 AM
gender roles are enforced before a kid's 6! A girl is already wearing dresses, boys know they're not suppose, long/short hair.
Thankfully it's not total otherwise we'd still look like society back in the 50s.
sorry I can't take marriage seriously, other than a legal document which may have some tax benefits.
Jedi_Zachaa
07-17-2002, 01:11 AM
Bendu, what do you mean you can't take marriage seriously? I don't understand your statement.
I definitely think that people need to not be pressured to get married. I think rushed relationships are the reason why we have 50% divorce rates. It's sad. I mean, sure sometimes it works. That's wonderful!! But a lot of times, it doesn't, and a lot of people's lives are changed forever.
I plan to not marry until my mid twenties, and hopefully I will have known the guy for at least a year. During our engagement we should probably try to live together so I know we can handle it. If we get married and then decide to live together and find out it doesn't work... that would be terrible. I also want to have a clear career on my OWN. I never want to be helplessly dependent upon anyone. I have to be able to get a job on my own and be able to support myself before I marry. That way if anything happens, I will be able to get along by myself. And, lastly, I plan not to do anything stupid. I.E., I plan to abstain for a long time. College would be the absolute worst time (except for high school) to become pregnant, so I'm going to avoid the issue altogether and do the only foolproof thing.
Of course, things almost never go along with the plan. We'll see what happens.
Polunis
07-17-2002, 01:18 AM
sorry I can't take marriage seriously, other than a legal document which may have some tax benefits.
Tax benefits? In the US, there is a Marriage Penalty Tax. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif
JediBendu
07-17-2002, 04:00 AM
We have a legal term known as 'defacto' - if you've been living together for at least 6mths you can apply for it. It's for people who just don't believe in 'marriage' but are in a pair-bond relationship.
Mid 20s! Jedi_Zachaa!
wait till your mid 30s - it's not as though you don't have time. I think some gender roles are pretty engrained.
Blizzard
07-17-2002, 04:11 AM
I almost get ticked off by some of the bone-headed decisions I see women making every day. *I don't know what they see in some men they take a fancy to; I only foresee future misery for them once those jocks turn into jerks. *I would think they would have better taste, but I suppose I am expecting too much.
Are you calling me bone headed? Meow! *bites Polunis* style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sly.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif
Don't assume all women are the same because you see the women you want drooling over jocks. That's your own personal experience. I have never once dated a jock, they don't turn me on in the least. I go for balding nerds and sometimes they can turn into retarded asses, too! I saw no misery in my future until recently. He was a good guy for the most part and the funniest guy I ever met. It just went bitter and bad. *
Let me know when you have actually been in love and you find out how really hard it is. *Just because you have a few arguements doesn't not mean you aren't meant for each other, either. *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/huh.gif
Blizzard
07-17-2002, 04:23 AM
I have my own special opinion on that topic but I'm not going to voice it cause the mods might get mad.
Oh come on Droid, are you afraid of us little ol' mods??? Spit out your opinions already. *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif
I think people need to take issues such as marriage seriously or else they are doomed to fail.
Well, I am 36 and have never been married. How serious do you think I take it? *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/hehe.gif
JediBendu
07-17-2002, 04:26 AM
That's true - apparently couples who don't argue are being rejected as parents for adoptees because they don't have any conflict resolution ability.
Arguing is great, but there's a line that you cross. I, like sooo many before, just kept on putting up, kidding myself that if I'm the one who shows respect and remains calm then it might someday be reciprocated. one day
Blizzee,
I saw no misery in my future until recently. He was a good guy for the most part and the funniest guy I ever met. It just went bitter and bad.
*sigh* tell me about it gurl. :cry:
Meche
07-17-2002, 10:59 AM
I would say that if you have some serious issues, treat your partner badly, or choose the wrong partners, then you are definitely either a man or a woman.
Thanks Bendu. Orange is eww.
Polunis
07-17-2002, 12:48 PM
Originally posted by Blizzard@July 17 2002 - 03:11
I almost get ticked off by some of the bone-headed decisions I see women making every day. I don't know what they see in some men they take a fancy to; I only foresee future misery for them once those jocks turn into jerks. I would think they would have better taste, but I suppose I am expecting too much.
Are you calling me bone headed? Meow! *bites Polunis* style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sly.gif ;)
Don't assume all women are the same because you see the women you want drooling over jocks. That's your own personal experience. I have never once dated a jock, they don't turn me on in the least. I go for balding nerds and sometimes they can turn into retarded asses, too! I saw no misery in my future until recently. He was a good guy for the most part and the funniest guy I ever met. It just went bitter and bad.
Let me know when you have actually been in love and you find out how really hard it is. Just because you have a few arguements doesn't not mean you aren't meant for each other, either. :huh:
I never said that. I referred to the decisions as bone-headed, not the people.
I'll let you know when I find out how hard it really is. Having arguments is preferable to holding the bitterness inside, so I agree with you.
Rebel Astromech Droid
07-17-2002, 01:51 PM
Originally posted by Blizzard@July 17 2002 - 03:23
Oh come on Droid, are you afraid of us little ol' mods??? Spit out your opinions already. *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif
Actually I use quite colorful language when I speak my mind about how alot of guys I know act and it's hard very hard to sensor myself once I get going and it's probably not anything that you don't allready know. Some guys I know are OK and as for the ones that aren't ( a vast majority ) for some really really really really strange reasons people keep on telling me that one day they will transform themselves from pigs to real people. *In my opinion a load of crap but hey whatever!
nerfer
07-17-2002, 05:49 PM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>Hey Lara!!
Not sure what I really wanted to add, except sometimes it can work. You could say Moo and I didn't know each other too well before we got married and we've been together a year already and weesa still very much in love style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/inlove.gif</span></span>
Hiya Nerf!
You guys probably know that you have to work hard so that a relationship works and you probably will do anything for one another, and you're willing to fight for each other, plus you guys are soul mates! :love: You both know what you want, you're mature, you won't make the same mistakes you made and you love each other so much that you would do anything for each other. I don't know if I'm making any sense. :doze:
nerfer
07-18-2002, 04:22 PM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>(((HUGS))))) Lara, yousa making a ton of sense. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif Yep, Moo's my soulmate style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/inlove.gif</span></span>
Awwww, Tov was my soulmate and I lost him.... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif
nerfer
07-20-2002, 12:58 PM
((((((HUGS)))) Lara
Pepper
07-22-2002, 05:03 PM
My sincerest sympathies to you, Lara. And to Tov. This isn't easy for either of you, I'm sure.
Brian
07-22-2002, 06:05 PM
FYI, I am battling strep throat right now and I feel like absolute bantha poo-doo! :(
DanielSkywalker
07-22-2002, 06:28 PM
Well, I have my Calculus final on Wednesday, and I am majorly stressed out. So, please pray for me, or wish me luck, or whatever.
JediBendu
07-22-2002, 07:22 PM
inappropriate post
Jedi_Zachaa
07-29-2002, 04:13 PM
<span style='color:cc00ff'>*cries* I HATE TICKETMASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO ANGRY!!!!! I pushed refresh for a half an hour, only got ONE choice of tickets and they were way to crappy for their price. Now there don't seem to be any left. I am SO MAD!!!!
it was for my precious Paul McCartney concert. I really really really really really want to go. I guess i'll just have to keep checking in case they put up more tickets. the b*stards. they've screwed me 2 out of 2 times. but they have a monopoly on tickets so i HAVE To buy from them unless i want to pay at LEAST twice the price for the same tickets.
i am very sad and lonely at work and i have stuff to do but i don't exactly know how to do it, even on a good day, and this is definitely NOT a good day. i want to go home and cry myself to sleep.
i want my paul tickets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif</span>
Polunis
07-29-2002, 10:56 PM
Originally posted by Jedi_Zachaa@July 29 2002 - 15:13
<span style='color:cc00ff'>*cries* I HATE TICKETMASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO ANGRY!!!!! I pushed refresh for a half an hour, only got ONE choice of tickets and they were way to crappy for their price. Now there don't seem to be any left. I am SO MAD!!!!
it was for my precious Paul McCartney concert. I really really really really really want to go. I guess i'll just have to keep checking in case they put up more tickets. the b*stards. they've screwed me 2 out of 2 times. but they have a monopoly on tickets so i HAVE To buy from them unless i want to pay at LEAST twice the price for the same tickets.
i am very sad and lonely at work and i have stuff to do but i don't exactly know how to do it, even on a good day, and this is definitely NOT a good day. i want to go home and cry myself to sleep.
i want my paul tickets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif</span>
That doesn't sound like a pleasant situation. Ticket prices are expensive. I don't know exactly what you can do to rectify the situation, but keep being persistent. It is a pity that these situations happen, but your persistence could end up paying off. I wish you the best.
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Rebel Astromech Droid
07-29-2002, 11:00 PM
I totally know how you feel I hate it when that happens. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/banghead.gif
Vyndim
07-30-2002, 03:45 AM
*sigh* My family is really starting to annoy me sometimes. Recently my half sister, my niece, and brother-in-law all came down to visist. *Well things start off nicely, but then my brother-in-law is unhappy with how I dress so I he tries to change that. I guess I can deal with that, since their only here for a few more days. Also, my sister and brother-in-law "brag" about their daughter (my niece). *There are these small subtle comments about how smart she is, how well she does in school, etc. *I start to realize why I don't want to live close to them. *I guess I just get this feeling that they think their better than us.
Also, I've noticed my parents get annoyed with me when I act myself. With that, I mean when I start to voice my thoughts and say things they don't want to hear. *It's just so hard to keep up a facade for so long. *I guess this wouldn't be so bad if I had someone to talk to and act myself, but the few friends I do have, really arn't the kind you do that with. *So I'm pretty alone as it is, surrounded by people who don't really know "me". *sigh* I just can't wait until I can move out and forget about all of them. *Just two more years left, which will be spent enrolled in community college, then I'm gone. Hopefully, I'll transfer to a UC somewhere far from the people I know.
JediBendu
07-30-2002, 05:28 AM
as long as you're true to yourself mate, the rest can go shove themselves up their own @rse!
besides, there's always the Senate :yoda:
I'm getting a little bit stressed out over the job I do. I'm in IT but not the glamorous 'I work for Microsoft' or 'I design SW games'. There's another side of IT that no one wants to get into but somehow find themselves in. These are the people who design weapons systems for military contracts, people who design traffic light controlling systems etc etc. My last contract was for a casino corp who's sole purpose is to fleece millions of dollars out of the economy in what amounts to state sponsored addiction, all to the euphamism of 'gaming'. I've contributed to the suffering of someone spending their rent money on a machine that will never give it back - and I told the machine not to!
But THIS contract is something else again. One of the critical success factors is the removal of 43 FTE's. Another painful anacronym describing a human being. I'm working on something that at a minimum will cause 43 people to loose their jobs. They're aiming for 200 people to be made redundant :angry:
there, I've said my bit.
Vydym, that sucks, you should be yourself no matter what others think you have to behave.
Bendu, that's awful, I can't imagine working on something that is against your own principles.
Seanakin
07-30-2002, 05:05 PM
Patience, Vyn. *Things equal out the more that time progresses. *I've found that parents obseesed with raising an Übermensch wind up stopping way short of that mark. *Conversely, I think the parents that know how to be just enough of a pain in the Arsch to their children, particularly when they're teens, their kids turn out alright. *Like my family, my sister and I are always at odds over some little thing, and every so often my parents (usually my father) join the mix so that there's up to five of us putting the fun back into dysfunctional. *Yet we know we're still family, and that's what holds us together.
Where I come from, it's quite easy to lose one's temper before a family member, causing many an ugly incident. *Yet each time, after a day or two, we wind up forgiving each other, and relations then normalize until someone starts something else with somebody.
That's why I enjoy reruns of "Everybody Loves Raymond." *(The old ones, though, because the more recent ones seem to have been taken over by the PC herd.) *That family is classic in its dysfunction. *Frank Barone is my hero. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif
Bendu, I hear ya about "state-sponsored addiction." *I hate the way the governement gets to flaunt its monopoly on gambling around here.
The only time I did ANYTHING Lotto was when I put Luth's birthday into a Pick 4 game on September 11th. ???
nerfer
07-30-2002, 05:27 PM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/grouphug.gif ((GROUP HUG))
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JediBendu
07-30-2002, 06:49 PM
"...and well you should not. *For my ally is the Force. *And a
powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. It's energy
surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we not this crude matter.
You must feel the Force around you. Here, between you...me...the tree...the rock...the Senate"
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Being a teenager can suck sometimes Vyndim, i know exactly how you feel. Its understandable that your sister and brother-in-law boast about their daughter, i'm sure most parents do that, but you have to start thinking about the positive things in your life. And i'm guessing that your niece is younger than you, so in that respect she hasn't experienced the trauma of teenagers yet. One part of being a teenager is being told how other people are better than you. I went to an all boys secondary school where sport and getting girls were all important. I was ok at sport and pretty crap with girls but i've always thought to myself about the positive things - i was cleverer than most of the other boys and got on with almost everybody.
About your parents getting annoyed when you act yourself. This is natural also (although i'm not sure to which degree they get annoyed). I've had nothing but 8 years of nagging from my mum because i'm very relaxed (read lazy) and seem to not get worried about anything. I don't stress at all and leave things to the last minute and because my mums the complete opposite, she can't help but moan. That has caused many an argument over the years.
I'm going to uni in September and although i'm really looking forward to having my freedom and not having anyone moaning at me constantly, i stress that no-one should wish to get completely away from their parents. My dad left home when i was 6 and i grew up without a dad. Up until about a year ago it always brings sad thoughts to my mind when i saw my friends at home happily with their dads. It'll be great to get away from my family but just remember, you never know what you've got until you've lost it.
And not being able to talk to anyone is a major problem. I've learnt to channel my emotions and express my feelings. I used to be in a band so i wrote songs which just got it all out. Now i write scripts and usually they're driven by emotion. Not everyone can do this but it is a great emotion reliever. I would love to talk directly to people and just get everything out but until i can afford a psychiatrist its not going to happen.
Good luck.
Vyndim
08-01-2002, 02:34 PM
<span style='color:000070'>Okay now I'm stressed. *Apparently my college registration packet got lost in the mail! *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/skullwink.gif Now I out that school starts in two weeks, I have zero classes, no registration packet, and no orientation. *Ugh. *I have to do all of that in two weeks now. Not to mention, I had planned on getting my drivers license in three weerks, meaning I have to take the bus to school for a bit. I'm also not even sure if they have room left, meaning I may not be able to get into the fall semester! *All of this because my packet got lost in the mail. At least if I had received I could have planned everything and I wouldn't be rushing like I am now...*style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/banghead.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/banghead.gif *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/banghead.gif
Oh, and thanks everyone for the encouragement on my family issues.</span>
Handothrawn
08-03-2002, 02:52 PM
Well Vyny, I can identify with you on that one. This is my first year going into highschool, and the school was supposed to send me my class list, teacher requirements, and schedule, and locker number, never got any of it.
STar war spUNK
08-07-2002, 10:05 AM
since i don't get an allowance, i don't have a job, i hate kids... i don't usually get money. *actually i usually have NO money. *well... warped tour was coming up for me and i HAD TO GO. *its like the best concert that ever comes around. *30 bands for only like 20 bucks. *THAT IS CHEAP. *ok anyway... *well i just had to go because two of my favorite bands, good charlotte and no use for a name were coming. *(along with nofx, flogging molly, bouncing souls, lagwagon, mxpx, mighty mighty bosstones, less than jake, reel big fish... um anyway...). *so... i asked my mom to help me buy a ticket and she said no. *i should do this myself. *ugh. *so i got myself to work for one night at my piano school. *and guess what! *it ended up being 20 bucks! *for one night! *yes! *so i was all set to buy my ticket, but first i needed to get a ride. *well at the time, my boyfriend said he woudl take me. *well guess what... notice i said at the time. *yep. *he dumped me. * so i was stuck with no ride. *well this is june i thought... i will have plenty of time to find a ride. *so actually i did. *one of my friends told me he woudl take me. *and i was like OH SWEET. *well i didn't realize that i twas already august!!!! *and i hadn't got my ticket yet, and the show was on august 7th... so i called my dude friend up and said hey man its august 2. *are we going to warped tour ornot? *and he said, um i can't go. *i wasli ke WTF. *OMG OMG OMG. *so yep. *guess who is staying home today WHEN THEY SHOULD BE AT *style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/censored.gif WARPED TOUR. *YEP YEP. *THAT WOULD B EME. *UGH I'M SO SO SO SO MAD. *I WORKED SO HARD FOR THAT MONEY. AND MY :censored: EX-BOYFRIEND GETS TO GO AND HE DOESN'T EVEN REALLY LISTEN TO THAT KIND OF MUSIC. UGH. I AM SO MAD.
Tovor
09-26-2002, 04:55 PM
bump
STar war spUNK
09-26-2002, 05:20 PM
dang i forgot about this thread. thanks for doing that tovor, cuz i have to rant.
ok well like yesterday my tennis coach... we were playing against some school and i'm not ranked (since i'm only a sophomore), so i wasn't supposed to play yesterday along with about 6 other people. WELL... since we were beating them So badly, my coach decided to put us in... and she needed someone for number 2 doubles, and she realized that one person would be left out... SHE WAS ABOUT TO LET ME BE THE ONE LEFT OUT. haha but guess what, some dude from the guy's tennis team convinced her to put me on. well... she said to me... don't be giving off any of those cheesy shots of yours... and if you lose i swear i will beat you up. SHE SAID THAT TO ME. she acted like she was joking, but what kind of joke is that. she doesn't like me. she really doesn't. and its not just me. i noticed she doesn't like any of the asian people on my team. she just is a real ***** to us. and it annoys the hell out of me. i was trying to do my homework at a tennis match cuz we were out there until 8:30, and she screamed at me and told me that ibetter cheer andsupport my team and i waslike... dude i'm doing my homework. and she said I DON'T CARE. and then she waslike GET OUT OF MY WAY when i was trying to watch the game like she asked. geez. she's so rude.
Geez, is there someone you could talk to about that? get that racist slob fired.
Tovor
09-26-2002, 05:35 PM
You should speak to your principle about this ASAP. If this person is being rude and threatening and not genuinely joking around with you, albiet badly, you have a strong issue that should be reported.
STar war spUNK
09-26-2002, 05:38 PM
i tried. it didn't work. i talked to the athletic director, and i asked him if she had to be the coach next year, and i described why i didn't want her to, and he said he can't do anything about it if she wants to. i was thinking... that's bs.
I'm embarrassed that this woman is a teacher, a coach, but still an educator. It's a sad day for educators when ppl like this are allowed near students.
nerfer
09-27-2002, 12:29 AM
If she's like that to the other Asian kids too, mebbe you could talk to them and all talk to your parents. If a group of parents complain to the school, surely they can't ignore that. I mean they are so scared of litigation these days they'd be really dumb to ignore a complaint from a parent.
(HUG)
Tovor
09-27-2002, 01:48 AM
That is so true, Nerf.
Punk, Nerfer has a strong point. If her attitude and reactions to Asian students is widespread, it would not be your word against hers, but the word of a whole group of students who faced the same rudeness and unfair treatment by her. And that, as Nerf pointed out, would not be brushed aside by school officials.
STar war spUNK
09-27-2002, 09:09 AM
but two of them are leaving for college next year, and one more is going to play on the soccer team... so that just leaves me and someone else, since the others can't complain since it won't apply to them anymore. and i don't even know if i'll be playing soccer next year... i want to and my coach said that if i play soccer i can play tennis too... but you know. two people complaining is kinda lame.
So you're just gonna leave it like that? It's as if you were condoning her behavior.
Punk, you should not keep quiet, she'll keep doing that same thing and putting other people through the same psychological torment. Someone should complain.
Tovor
09-27-2002, 12:09 PM
Yeah punk, what she just said.
Why thank you style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif btw, I sent you two pms.
nerfer
09-29-2002, 06:16 PM
<span style='color:c1007e'><span style='font-family:comic sans ms'>
Hi Lara!!!!! Hi Tovor!!!!!!!!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif
Hey Punk! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif It still might be worth talking to the other peeps anyway. They might be leaving, but they may feel its worth making a complaint about her if they can make a difference so that future students don't have to suffer as you all have. ((HUG)) </span></span>
Darth Badly
01-28-2004, 10:15 PM
Originally posted by Count Dooku@Jun 30 2002, 03:39 AM
I made this for the people who would like to talk about there personal problems, or stress. You can share anything, I want people to respect each other thats the only rule.
Edited.
S**t. Although a lot of the time I wanna slap ya down Dookie - this is a good idea. So here's a bump.
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