Girlfriends

[Gazelle]

Hey everyone,

This thread is especially for the men among us although contributions from women are welcome.

I have just started dating a rather nice young lady. She is very wonderful and I am almost certain that it will become quite serious quite soon.

My question is: "At what point do I mention the Star Wars obsession?"

I would welcome any thoughts from you to aid me in my development of this tricky subject, plus a variety of experiences you have had with your loved one and how you have mixed romance with Star Wars.

Can it be done?

[stormtrooper9]

Easy one date some one who you know that is in to star wars...Hehe Or when your friends (If it started that way) Ask if she would like to watch a SW movie with you and sees how it gos that is my 2 cents...

[bluemilk]

Hmm...toughie...

It's true that's there more male Star Wars geeks than women so finding a girlfriend that's a good sport about your fandom may be a bit harder. I always say you can't sacrifice your individuality even for a relationship. If she hates Star Wars and you love it but you "give it up" to be with her it's definitly going to cause some strain.

If you like who you are and aren't embarrassed by your SW obsession then tell her at anytime. If she has a problem with it then best you find out sooner than later eh? I know how hard it can be to find people that understand or even participate in your obsession. I love heavy metal, Star Wars and hockey so you can guess I don't have one female friend and both my roomates are men.

They hassle me about my Star Wars obsession but I keep on truckin' because it makes me happy and that's what's most important style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/happy.gif

[stormtrooper9]

Or just get a date from here style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif but I dont think people would like it if you kept on hitting on them...

[Darth Darthy]

Wear a Star Wars T-Shirt and ensure it's in full view and this may occur.

LADY FRIEND
"Oh, you like Star Wars?"

GAZ
"Yes, would you like to see my lightsaber?"

There is a small possibility she may not go for that line though...

[Blizzard]

*bops Darthy*

I wish I could help you, but I haven't dated someone where hobbies mattered or got it the way. I am passionate about Star Wars and if someone has a problem with that it's sayonara! With my son's dad I put up with him dressing like Ace Frehley, so he didn't have anything to say about my Star Wars obsession.

[brookie]

i am a girl, and i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. it is I, who have the star wars obsession, not him, he likes it and all but not as much as i do, which is pretty funny. if this girl doesnt like you because you like star wars, then she isnt worth it. a girl who drops you over such a petty thing isnt cool, or isnt the one for you!!

it can be done, many people on this site have significant others who dot really share the love for SW.

[Justin]

Originally posted by bluemilk@Aug 3 2004, 08:51 PM
both my roomates are men.
Hey now!

[bluemilk]

Originally posted by Justin+Aug 3 2004, 11:30 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Justin @ Aug 3 2004, 11:30 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'> <!--QuoteBegin-bluemilk@Aug 3 2004, 08:51 PM
both my roomates are men.
Hey now! [/b][/quote]
okay I confess, I had three male roomates but one just moved out. They like Star Wars and all but I'm the obsessive. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/happy.gif but erm..hey now what? style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/huh.gif

[Obi-Stu]

I took my wife (who was then my girlfriend,) to See all the SE's when they came out, she saw TPM with me twice and AOTC once. We watch the films all the time, quote Star Wars at each other and Yoda answers our phone when we can't.

And our Boys go to Halloween parties dressed and Jedi knights.


I guess I can't help you... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/giveup.gif

[bous]

My girlfriend has seen all five films, she liked them but wasn't that impressed by them.

I have a huge collection of books and toys and all kinds of stuff Star Wars.
We just bought a new house with 4 bedrooms, she agreed to let me turn one of those into my Star Wars room.

So I guess I'm lucky with a girl like that.

When we first dated I didn't really mention my obsession for SW, she found out the first time she came to my place, there's no hiding it when you got something Sw in every room in the house.
It wasn't a problem, if she really likes you it shouldn't be a problem for her.

[cj790]

I kinda forced my obsession onto my missus, quite early on, and now she's a fan!
Job done style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif

[goodwije]

I think if you show her your passion and explain why you are so into sw most girls (or guys or whatever) would appreciate it and it maybe even allow them to get to know you on a deeper level. Just my opinion, if she doesnt dig sw, well she may never dig sw, that does not mean it has to get in the way of what you have together.

[Obi-Stu]

Originally posted by goodwije@Aug 4 2004, 03:12 PM
I think if you show her your passion and explain why you are so into sw most girls (or guys or whatever) would appreciate it and it maybe even allow them to get to know you on a deeper level. Just my opinion, if she doesnt dig sw, well she may never dig sw, that does not mean it has to get in the way of what you have together.
That's important. Don't let it divide you.

[bous]

Yes, listen to Obi-Stu you must or forever will it dominate your destiny style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/y.gif

You'll be alright man, just as long as you don't force her to wear that slave Leia costume and try to convince her that that's no chain to tie her but a necklace. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif

[cj790]

Lol!

Seriously though, is there anyone who would jeapordise a relationship over a SW obsession?

[mazzy]

My boyfriend got me into Star Wars. I had seen it and liked it but as soon as we met it came up that he loved it. Infact one of our first dates was around at his with ANH. I have learned to love it, I'm not as obbsessed as him, and not as knowledgable, but I do love Star Wars. Besides he has to put up with my freaky-deaky obbsesstions too!

[bous]

So Gazelle you will let us know what happens right?

[Gazelle]

Well, I tentatively mentioned Star Wars a couple of times this week, so maybe I have prepared her for the shock news.

She is visiting my home tomorrow so will see one or two dvds on the shelf...

Bit by bit, she'll find out.

[Gazelle]

Originally posted by cj790@Aug 5 2004, 09:45 AM
Lol!

Seriously though, is there anyone who would jeapordise a relationship over a SW obsession?
No, a girl is more important

[jedi hunter]

My exgirlfreind hated starwars but she didnt have a problem with because she has an obession with Care Bears style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/barf.gif .....Find out if your girlfriend has an obesession about something.

[jadeskywalker]

No I wouldn't! If a guy doesn't like SW I wouldn't care! I have all the movies, some books still collecting them, and even action figures, cards,ect...! My last boyfriend everytime he saw a SW book he bought it for me cause he knew that would make me happy. So now when we talk( he is in Cali. now) everytime he sees something SW he always thinks of me! The one guy who has never asked me to with my SW obsession !And he has never seen all the SW movies til he meet me and we talk about SW and it is quiet cool to have someone to talk to and they do not look at you funny!

[Tarkheki JD]

Hey Hey... no dissin' Care Bears! My teacher was the character developer and produciton designer on that, and it's an awsome show! "Noheart" is just so darn cool! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif

As for the partner, I wouldn't care if he did or didn't like it... that's not what is going to make me fall in love with him, however, if any obsession on ANY side can lead to large wedges in the relationship, I say it's time to move on!

[bous]

Well Tark, just as long as he doesn't get too jealous with you and Obi-Wan. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif

[Tarkheki JD]

.... oh, he'll have to know his place, allright.... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

Unless, I end up dating a guy that mysteriously looks like obi-wan, and we all will begin to wonder... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

[flo fett]

Well, my boyfriend isn't a Star Wars fan at all. He doesn't hate the movies, he just doesn't bother with them at all. BUT! He does sit and let me witter on about it nonstop and never complains or tells me to shutit for two seconds, he allows me to drag him into comic stores, sci-fi shops and memorabilia conventions and buys me SW items that he know I don't have if he spots them when he's out and about....he even puts up with my Boba Fett obsession, and went with me when I went to meet Jeremy Bulloch. He just rubs my hair and says 'Shhhhh crazy lady' when I get over-excited. I don't think it's necessary that your partner likes SW, i'm sure it'd make life easier if they did or if they just indulge you (as in my case) but I don't think it's that important.

[Obi-Stu]

Originally posted by bous@Aug 9 2004, 10:17 AM
Well Tark, just as long as he doesn't get too jealous with you and Obi-Wan. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif
Can't escape it Tark. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

[Gazelle]

Ok, anyone ready for an update on my current dilemma??

I have broached the subject by telling her I want to go see "I Robot" and that I am into "that kind of thing." Not a bad start.

[Obi-Stu]

Check this out, it might help style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

www.flyingarmadillo.com/cantina/dating.html (http://www.flyingarmadillo.com/cantina/dating.html)

[mazzy]

LOL style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif

[stormtrooper9]

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[metalhead]

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thats great stuff
thats good to kno for if i ever start collectin or something other than watch the movies

[Gazelle]

hehe, a useful guide!

But I think things are going to be okay. Let's hope she doesn't find my Jabba costume...

[Obi-Stu]

Originally posted by Gazelle@Aug 17 2004, 01:34 PM
hehe, a useful guide!

But I think things are going to be okay. Let's hope she doesn't find my Jabba costume...
I saw this list a while back, but forgot about until I came across it the other and I imediately thought of you...

[Seanakin]

"Into that sort of thing?"

Dude, it's SW, not the menage. Need to be a little more low-key next time.

Course, every chick I wound up dating was already a SW nutjob, so I had it easy. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif

[JKRich]

My wife doesnt like SW at all.My daughters enjoy it alot though.Thank God they take after me..lol.and Tark my daughters love the carebears(Goodluck bear rules) style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif

[JediBendu]

I don't think they would ever mix - imagine getting a divorce over whether Greedo should have shot first style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/crazy.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif

[Tovor]

Triumph the Insult Comic Dog was probably right when he told the pregnant Star Wars geek that when her future SW fan son was born, it would tbe the last time he would see female genitalia up close. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/chortle.gif

[Javen]

I have never had a girlfriend who was into SW like me.

[Obi-Stu]

Originally posted by JediBendu@Aug 22 2004, 02:10 PM
I don't think they would ever mix - imagine getting a divorce over whether Greedo should have shot first style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/crazy.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif
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[flo fett]

style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif If my boyfriend even argued with me about that...grrrr..so dumped! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif

[James]

I've always kept SW and girlfriends separate. I hate how sci-fi is considered the domain of the nerdy. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif

[Cassus Fett]

neva let girlfriend and SW meet it can only end in arguements!

[Kapit]

hey, my girlfriend just joined the GS because she wants to know why i'm such a fan

look for JediKaputskisLoverGirl

so SW and girlfriends DO MIX as long as you have someone who is willing to go to celebration III with you, and is also willing to wait in line for ep3 tickets with you

hehehe, she's a keeper!

[stormtrooper9]

you frogot about the part where they are willing to see why you like star wars and they are not that much of a fan or are not a fan..

[Kapit]

^good point

she says LOTR is better

yeah, okay!

[MXCABRINI]

Girls, all that Really want Is girls.

Thanks, beastie.

[JediKaputskisLovergirl]

Star Wars and girlfriends DO mix!!! I must admit, I knew nothing about SW when I met my boyfriend, JediKaputski, yet I watched all the movies, and his love for SW is a very endearing quality!!! It makes him special and interesting to me, and I think it's awesome that he knows so much!!!

So, if this girl doesn't accept the SW obsession, get rid of her! Find someone who likes the idea, and who loves everything about you, even obsessions, and you will have a wonderful life together!!

GOOD LUCK!!!!

P.S: watch the movies with her and add commentary to help explain characters, see if she likes it. If so, she's a good catch

[Kapit]

^i love her

[MXCABRINI]

Good luck In your love guys!!!!!!

[Kapit]

hehhee, well, as you can see, girlfriends and star wars DO mix

hehhehe, you have to use the wonderful line:

sorry sweetheart, but we don't have time for anything else

(just ask jen)

[JediKaputskisLovergirl]

Use pick up lines from the love story, it works

[stormtrooper9]

Well did any one of you say I love you and the other responce I know?

[Kapit]

^many a time........*sigh* good times, good times......

[Darth Darthy]

That's one thing I couldn't do. My girlfriend and I were just close friends when I dragged her and a bunch of other folk to the midnight screening of AOTC. If I started spewin' cheesy SW lines to her she'd know I wasn't being authentic...

"...sand is coarse and gets everywhere. Including my butt crack. But your soft and nice and lovely and - will you sit on my face?"

Nah, I guess I just don't have the communication skills.

[Kapit]

sorry sweetheart, but we don't have time for anything else

seriously, it works real well, and it's general enough that she won't know

[JediKaputskisLovergirl]

she won't know until she watches the movies......

then, if she's a keeper, she won't care that you used SW lines

it will still be romantic

[Obi-Stu]

Darthy has apoint though, and it canbecome a bit much and overused.

[flo fett]

Originally posted by Darth Darthy@Sep 11 2004, 01:44 AM
"...sand is coarse and gets everywhere. Including my butt crack. But your soft and nice and lovely and - will you sit on my face?"

Nah, I guess I just don't have the communication skills.
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style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif What!? You mean you couldn't pull that off? The Darth Darthy, silver tongued sex Sith doesn't have the charisma to pull that off?...man I am soooo disillusioned...
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[Obi-Stu]

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[JediBendu]

c'mon - surely you've all used 'she may not look like much but she's got it where it counts'

...haven't you? style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/grins.gif

[Obi-Stu]

I don't want to know... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif

[Greedo Boy]

Originally posted by JediKaputski@Sep 10 2004, 08:05 PM
sorry sweetheart, but we don't have time for anything else
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I thought it was "I don't have time for anything else"...

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[kevin31]

my girlfriend never realized how much i liek Star Wars until recently...but that's just cause i got back into again, and i was working on my fanfic

she doesn't think it's weird or anything like that, so i guess that's a good thing style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/happy.gif

[Obi-Stu]

From a certain point of view... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

[Kapit]

Originally posted by Greedo Boy+Sep 15 2004, 06:35 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Greedo Boy @ Sep 15 2004, 06:35 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-JediKaputski@Sep 10 2004, 08:05 PM
sorry sweetheart, but we don't have time for anything else
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I thought it was "I don't have time for anything else"...

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no it's we

and kevin, that's almost ALWAYS a good thing

[Max Starkiller]

"Let's make the jump to hyperspeed, baby."

With my current crush, I probably wouldn't get far enough to say that.

[Max Starkiller]

Originally posted by Ralph Skywalker@Dec 9 2004, 03:30 PM
"Let's make the jump to hyperspeed, baby."

With my current crush, I probably wouldn't get far enough to say that.
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style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wave.gif Hey ladies...

Once I get somewhere style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue1.gif with a girl, I promise to post some sorta pics related to SW's part in our relationship

[PrincessJoJo]

PFFT! FINE.
ASK CASSUS TO CHOOSE BETWEEN SW AND SEX AND SEE WHT HE SAYS.....

[Blizzard]

Jojo, please don't type in caps and please type using complete words and sentences. It makes reading the forum easier for all, thanks.

[Cassus Fett]

Originally posted by PrincessJoJo@Feb 10 2005, 04:49 PM
PFFT! FINE.
ASK CASSUS TO CHOOSE BETWEEN SW AND SEX AND SEE WHT HE SAYS.....
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I would choose you anyday babe, i love you x x x x x x

[leiaorgana]

Well from my point of view... I would just mention it to see how she reacts to

that... maybe you're in front of another fan and you still haven't find out... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif

Now if you mention it and she says she doen's like that or she's not into Sci/Fi ,

you can leave it (the subject) right there and keep enjoying SW with your friends...

Never make her feel that SW is more important than her.. specially if you're just

Starting to get to know each other.... style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

GOOD LUCK MAN! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/bye.gif

[Blizzard]

I would never date a guy who told me I had to choose between him and Star Wars (or choose between him and anything basically).

[Luminara Skye]

Originally posted by Blizzard@Feb 11 2005, 12:08 PM
I would never date a guy who told me I had to choose between him and Star Wars (or choose between him and anything basically).
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I'm with you there, Blizzard. I'm the kind of person whose up front, though. I don't have any trouble telling people I'm a SW Junkie. The way I look at it is that I'm going to be myself. If the other person can't handle that, it's not worth wasting time. It would be nice to find someone who was remotely similar to me, though! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/y.gif

[leiaorgana]

Originally posted by Luminara Skye+Feb 13 2005, 03:06 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Luminara Skye @ Feb 13 2005, 03:06 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-Blizzard@Feb 11 2005, 12:08 PM
I would never date a guy who told me I had to choose between him and Star Wars (or choose between him and anything basically).
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I'm with you there, Blizzard. I'm the kind of person whose up front, though. I don't have any trouble telling people I'm a SW Junkie. The way I look at it is that I'm going to be myself. If the other person can't handle that, it's not worth wasting time. It would be nice to find someone who was remotely similar to me, though! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/y.gif
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Aiiighhhttt, you're right girls... if someone loves you, he/she has to do it the way you are and because of who you are, with strenghts and defects!!!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/heartbeat.gif

[Luminara Skye]

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Don't they say love is blind? It's like my cats. If he can't get along with my cats, he's outta there! For me that's like saying he doesn't like my children. He'll have to take me as I am! Fetishes and all!! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/y.gif

[RollaFett]

I didn't know that this thread was around. I started a similar one last year and got some interesting replies.
Couldn't care less about Star Wars... (http://www.galacticsenate.com/index.php?showtopic=10836)

Anyway, to answer your question. Yes, loving SW and having a girlfriend/wife/signifigant other can co-exist. In April, I will have been married for 6 years and my SW fandom was front and center from day 1. We started dating when TPM was a little over a year away, and were married about a month before TPM premiered. SW fever was rampant with me. I also had a roommate when we first starte dating and he was as big a fan as me. We had posters all over our apartment, toy displays, etc. There was no secret, and she loved me anyway. Oh, and she really could care less about SW.

[Seanakin]

Originally posted by JediBendu@Sep 14 2004, 04:07 AM
c'mon - surely you've all used 'she may not look like much but she's got it where it counts'

...haven't you? style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/grins.gif
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I have...and boyo, did that ever blow up in my face. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/boxed.gif

[Max Starkiller]

Well, I posted that on December 10, 2004. It's now April 20th, 2005. I've officially decided that nothing changes.

[trooper1138]

Wow, I just found this thread that I didn't even know existed. I think it's great! My girlfriend didn't even know about my SW obession for a while, but she sure knows of it now. I know she wasn't really into it before I met her, but I think it's grown on her a little. I apologize to her when I go off on one of my ramblings, but she says it's interesting. I've never sensed any sacrasm on her part, but I haven't been able to judge her facial expressions. I've seen her only for a few days in the last two months but we talk nearly every day and yes, she hears something about SW from me every time. I warned her that it's just gonna get worse as it gets closer to Ep. III, but she understands. So I guess I'm just lucky to be with such an understanding and wonderful woman. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.gif

[TuskenRaider1]

I own almost all the EU books, and my wife is fine with it. I dont go nuts with the movies (as in forcing her to watch each and every time) and usually will throw one on if shes studying or out. She'll go with me to see it once in the theatre. Otherwise, shes more than cool with me and my boys going out to see it a couple times. I remember when TPM came out, my buddys dad ran a theatre, and we saw the midnight show, wanted to see it again at 2:30, decided the metro was closed and it was too expensive to take a cab so we stayed for the 4:30 show and then left once teh metro opened. My wife (g/f at teh time) asked if I had fun, adn that was that. She knows where Ill be on 5/19 and she may or may not come then, since Ill prob see it more than once or twice style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif

I play battlefront and prob Ep III when it comes out, but I dont go to the comic shops or whatnot, Ill go on my own to the library to read the Graphic novels when they come in. As long as I keep it outta the way, my fan-boyishness has never been an issue. My wife sounds a lot like FloFetts boytoy. The rub me on the head "silly boy" statements. It works out well. Married 3 yrs, together 6 and she hasnt left me yet style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif